[Filtered from Akira]

[thestudyof]

So, apropos of nothing...

Say you're extremely concerned about the actions of someone under your care-- wanting to make sure they stay on a "steady path", and similar concerns like that. Having never really... Dealt with the scenario historically before, for how long should you be worried, for?

I still want to be able to keep an eye on this person and be responsible, but I'm not sure where the boundary should be set, when it comes to this.

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[morethaneverauburn]

If you really need the practice, I can teach you, if you'd like to arrange a meeting.

But otherwise, it's all about being in a relationship of authority, but respecting they're exploring themselves, never stifle that, but make sure your authority comes from a place of structure, kindness, expectation, and trying to make sure they have more chances than you did.

To quote someone:

"I must study politics and war that my sons may have liberty to study mathematics and philosophy. My sons ought to study mathematics and philosophy, geography, natural history, naval architecture, navigation, commerce and agriculture in order to give their children a right to study painting, poetry, music, architecture, statuary, tapestry, and porcelain."

[thestudyof]

What, on using a bowie knife?



But yes. I understand the idea of what's needed for this. It's just a messy circumstance-- something that I need to get past, eventually, for the betterment of the both of us.

[morethaneverauburn]

Bowie Knife, Kitchen Knife, Brass Knuckles, Knuckle Dusters, etc.

Ah, the gathering courage bit, always fun.

My mother when trying to do that, gave me the advice that she worked herself up to get something done by getting herself extremely angry.

Now, mind you, my mother is a very exotic case.

[thestudyof]

I'll consider it.

Mm. Anger is something I've actually... Been having to mitigate, but not towards the one being spoken about. I don't like feeling angry, in general.

But I can understand the idea of "getting yourself worked up so you'll do what you need to get done".

[morethaneverauburn]

Doesn't have to be anger, but basically any motivating emotion, but the darker more toxic ones can help.

... Though my mother said she'd prefer I don't have to be angry.

Still, feel free to contact me in the future, unlike my daughters who you've been talking to, I have experience dealing with teenage and adult dependents.

[thestudyof]

I may do just that.

I am also very aware that I lack a lot of people to speak to, who have experience in this particular area.